Visiting Hampshire!

One of my great loves is traveling! And most of all I love to travel England!
I am affraid it has become an addiction!
I need to go visit regularly.
It is hard to describe when and why this interest begun, but it might be that Jane had a finger in the game 😉 Both Austen and Eyre.

I love the English hospitality, how politely and lovingly I am treated when visiting! Their love for gardening and dogs help off course. The countryside is magnificent, the coast is wild and rough and the moors, hills and meadows of the north is captivating.

So far I have mainly visited Surrey. Some scattered visits to north, south west and west, but mainly Surrey! Some say Surrey is like Florida. Mostly tourists and rich people, but I adore it!

Next week is easter vacation and I will have loads of days off. Hmmm what to do? Yes, England off-course.
A brit at work suggested Meon valley in Hampshire. I asked why and here is his answer: Peaceful, picturesque cottages and villages, great local food, valleys, woods etc.
Well I was sold at peaceful!
And yes, Jane lived there as well!

So a quick google search for Meon Valley + B&B and there we go!
Add a rental car and some overpriced flight tickets and off we go!
But not until next week!

Hiking in the South Downs is on the plan! May also spend some time in Winchester. My camera will tag along and help me save all the precious moments!

New years resolutions

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I am very serious in making new years resolutions. I think this is so that I can concentrate on some important topics in my busy life, and put everything else aside.

1. Work better
I used to have a manager that told me in detail how to do my work. But now this has changed. My new manager leaves everything up to me… Which I am not using to the best of my knowledge or potential. So in 2013 I will use this and turn this headache of a job of mine into the perfect fit!
I am aware that this will require me to work some overtime and I will probably walk to bed with my head filled with work, but I will give it my best. As I am not at all happy as of now, it cannot get any worse!
And if I am not more happy with the situation come july, I will resign and find something else (in the opposite order).

2. Help my son at school and home
My son is as I am…. a bit lazy. He loves most activities when he is in the middle of it, but is really hard to get out  of his computer. My goal this next year is to be a bit harder on him (in a good way). I will force him to come out and do activities with us. I will make him watch movies about human relations other then blowing stuff up, and read the newspaper with him, explaining what really goes on behind the big headlines.
This one is not rocket science. This is what a mum is supposed to do, but as I also am lazy, sometimes I just give in. Let him live in his computer for just one more evening. And as computers and gaming is his biggest interest, I off course allow him to indulge in that world as well, just not all the spare time. And in the future a little less 🙂
Just to make sure that I don´t fall back to old ways, I will make it one evening a week. That day computers will be forbidden and fun with mum will be the new theme. As he is 14 I bet he will be thrilled 🙂

One other thing I´ve been meaning to teach him is how to talk to teachers. He is working really hard on his studying but is not getting the results on tests. I need to help him gain contact with his teachers so that he can seek guidance on how to succeed. Asking for help is some of the hardest things in everyday life, and getting started early must be a plus! This will also be done/started in 2013.

3. More happy
When I was younger I used to laugh all the time. I had loads of energy. Not to the extent of being annoying, but at least I had proper laughs many times a day. These days I am often down, my mood is really shit and I do not even know why…
This did not come crashing one day, but gradually gotten worse the last five-ten years. 3 years ago I had as a resolution to laugh more, and it worked. I saw comedies both at the cinema and theater. I got my colleagues and friends to tell jokes and I watched loads of standup on Youtube. This year I intend to do more of this. I am also getting myself a new dog. I have never owned a puppy (which I guess would make this resolution a lot easier), but have adopted to adult dogs. I want to adopt now too, If I can find one that fits our need.

4. Talking better care of myself and my son bodies.
I´ve just stopped drinking alcohol all together. I will do some more outdoor activities, and buy some equipment for exercising at home. 1 yoga mat and 2 cowbells within 1 of March.

I will make more food from scratch and grow my own in my garden. More juices and Smoothies for my son (does not care for fruit and veg at all, but do drink smoothies and juice). I will eat/drink more spirulina as this is good for my blood (I have a blood disease). I will try to make one dinner each week without meat.
I will find out why I react so violently when drinking small amounts of alcohol before ever trying it again. As my son exercises at school, I will set the goal to:
Once a week with my son and once a week alone. If I skip once, I will have to pay it back the next week.

5. I will get some advice on how to save up for buying property in UK.
In about 10 years I will by myself some property in the UK. In the beginning maybe just a loft or a forgotten stable somewhere, but in the end and long before retiring I will live part of the year in England and part of it here. I know where I am going, it is just good to get advice on where to put the money as I am saving for this first step of my big dream!
In a few years time I should also seek some advice in UK how to actually do the buying and loaning of money. Do I need the whole amount or not, or will I be able to get a loan, and if so, from here or there…

I also want to make a short list on how I want to be perceived, who do I want other people to see me as.
At work: Calm, thorough and not afraid to make decisions.
With family and friends: Centered, good listener and more forgiving

PickmeUp

My wonderful Apple Crumble Latte
My wonderful Apple Crumble Latte

Yesterday and today was not good workdays! I hate it when the temperature rises between collogues. Especially when I am one of them! You can not scream at them, because it has to many consequences, you have to keep your tung in control standing tall and not do stuff you will regret!

Some of these heavy days I run away from work an hour or two. I am allowed, as long as I work it back in again.

I hop on the train to the airport and indulge in a sugar feast at Starbucks! Its my secret pickmeup!
Today I treated myself with a lovely Apple Crumble Latte! Wow it was sooo good!

And I do love all the excitement on the airport. People coming or leaving. Some tired after long flights or long work week before a long flight, and other exited to go or come here on holiday! Energetic atmosphere!

Well here I am, on the train back. In far better mood and ready for some action before the weekend comes and lulles me away in all its glory! Sunlight, Colors, Friends, Family and laughter!

I hope you make a great weekend!!!

Trying to be the perfect girl

This is not an article about the wonderful Kate Middleton. The quiet, polite and well behaved girl standing tall smiling behind her husband. The Kate who has become a heroine to all us girls. This is an article about you and me!

Most of us dream of being dependent on strong men that care for us. Men that lock our door at night, men that could take down any burglar should they try to enter, men that make us feel safe and protected.

Luckily this is only happening in our dreams as of jet. The reality is quite different.

Girls nowadays work 9 hour days before they run home to help the kids with their homework while making dinner with veg from the garden, drive the kids off to football practice and pop by the gym visiting our not so friendly treadmill.

We get home after dark, slurp a glass on wine while ironing some shirts in front of the telly. Then around eleven we pop into the shower getting our sexy on, hoping we look and smell good for the last action point of the day; being a good wife in bed!

Puuuuhhh!

No wonder the Kate Middleton life seems tempting!

Yes off course I am exaggerating a bit. But I myself do all this AND more every week. And while all this is going on, the men in our society are behaving softer and more feminine then before. Almost more like us women.

Was that our intent when we asked for more equality in everyday life?

Are the women of the world´s fascination about the 50 Shades of Gray books a cry for more masculine men?

Our mums and grandmothers living in the 60´s are furious over this thinking, or lack there of. How they have fought and burned bras for us girls. Protested and advocated so that we would have higher education, higher salary and better conditions then the ladies before us.
Are we ready to give all this away?

On a busy day I must say I am tempted. But when I really sit down and do the math, I am not.
But is there a middle way?

Is there a way that I can be well educated, a good mum, a good wife and still have a career at the same time, or do I have to choose?

Is it really ok to thrive alone in solitude?

I am a lonely child, and grew up in a calm and quite home. Not much happened, and I spent a lot time on my own.

Now as a grown up working in a open office landscape and with a busy family at home, I love being alone. I never told anybody this, because I thought it to be wrong.
I was afraid that my family and son would think that I did not appreciate their company. But I do! Actually I want more kids (can’t have more due to a blood disease). Its just that I need to be alone sometimes. Can´t explain why!

A couple of days ago I was recommended this TED talk as I work with education. So I watched it, and now I had to see it again. And pieces are falling into place! Is it actually ok for me to want to be alone now and then? And on top of that, is it even very useful?
Gosh!

I recommend you to watch this TED talk with Susan Cain!

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